A 1950s-Sassy Guide to Wedding Party Roles (With a Twist of Inclusivity & Fun)
Because behind every fabulous couple is a fierce, fabulous crew.
Alright, buttercup—so you’re gettin’ hitched and gathering your gang. Whether your crew is made up of besties, brothers, sisters, cousins, drag queens, dogs in bowties, or your grandpa with a glitter fanny pack—this is your wedding, and your people, your way.
Gone are the days when the wedding party had to fit a mold tighter than a poodle skirt on prom night. We’re throwin’ tradition into the punch bowl and makin’ room for authenticity, sass, and support.
Now grab your notebook, cupcake, and let’s break down who does what in this big lovefest of yours—whether they’re rockin’ a tux, a jumpsuit, or a sequined caftan.
💐 The Wedding Party: Who’s Who & What They Do
👑 Maid or Man of Honor
Also known as: Your right-hand doll (or dude) and the honorary CEO of Wedding Operations.
Traditional Duties:
- Holds your bouquet and fixes your train like a runway assistant at Paris Fashion Week.
- Plans the bachelorette party (or bachelor-x bash) and keeps it classy(ish).
- Signs the marriage license, keeps tissues on hand, and always knows where the emergency safety pins are.
Non-Traditional Sass:
- Be your emotional bodyguard. If Aunt Barbara starts in on your seating chart? They block.
- Runs interference on day-of chaos like a wedding day bouncer in heels.
👉 This person doesn’t have to be a sister or a gal. If your soul sibling is a guy in cowboy boots—he’s the man of honor, sugar!
💃 Bridesmaids, Bridesmates, or Best Babes
Your squad, your ride-or-dies, the confetti in your bridal cannon.
Traditional Duties:
- Help with planning showers, DIY crafts, and moral support through dress try-ons and vendor drama.
- Walk the aisle, pose for photos, dance their tails off.
Non-Traditional Sass:
- Carry emergency snacks, fan you during photoshoots, and guard your champagne flute like it’s state treasure.
- Designate one to be “The Keeper of the Phone” so you’re not texting vendors in a veil.
👉 Don’t do gender norms? Then nix ‘em, cupcake! Your wedding party can be anyone who lifts you up and helps you shine.
🤵 Best Man, Best Person, or Main Sidekick
Cool under pressure, charming under spotlight, and always down to hype you up.
Traditional Duties:
- Plans the bachelor party and gives a toast that doesn’t get you disinvited from future family functions.
- Holds the rings (and the groom’s nerves) pre-ceremony.
- Makes sure the suit crew stays dressed, sober, and on schedule.
Non-Traditional Sass:
- Be the emotional wingman. Check in on your partner-to-be and remind ’em why you two are doin’ this whole love thing.
- Bring deodorant. Seriously.
👉 Best person can be a woman, your sibling, or your barista who’s seen you cry more than once. It’s about love, not labels.
💕 Groomsmen, Groomsbabes, or Party Posse
Here for the tux, the toast, and the trouble (the good kind).
Traditional Duties:
- Usher guests, help with logistics, and match socks (you’d be surprised how often they don’t).
- Hit the dance floor and keep the party poppin’.
Non-Traditional Sass:
- DJ assistant, boutonniere fixer, speechwriter backup, dance battle captain.
- Keep an eye on elderly relatives during cocktail hour—bonus points for wheeling Grandma to the bar.
👶 Flower Child, Petal Pixie, or Confetti Captain
Could be a kid, a dog, or your fabulous drag aunt with a glitter cannon.
Duties:
- Bring the “awww!” to your ceremony.
- Toss petals, blow bubbles, or sashay with streamers.
👉 No kids? No problem. Make it a friend in a tutu, a dog in a bowtie, or nix it entirely. This is your show, sugar.
📜 Officiant Extraordinaire
The one who says the magic words to make it all official—no wand required.
Traditional Duties:
- Lead the ceremony, pronounce you married, keep things sacred.
Non-Traditional Sass:
- Personalize your ceremony with your story, your style, and a dash of fabulous.
- Officiants can be friends, family, or ordained online in 10 minutes (hallelujah, internet!).
🎀 Ring Bearer (or Keeper of the Bling)
Often small, sometimes furry, always adorable.
Traditional Duties:
- Carries rings down the aisle (or fake ones for safety).
Non-Traditional Sass:
- Tie rings to a book, box, or vintage compact mirror. Or have a dog deliver ‘em in style!
📋 Bonus Roles for Modern Weddings:
- MC of Mayhem: The friend who makes announcements, organizes games, and keeps the mood lit.
- Stage Manager: That type-A pal who lives for a clipboard and ensures everything runs smoother than your cat-eye liner.
- DIY Diva: The crafty friend who hot-glues like a dream and brings your Pinterest board to life.
🎤 Sassy Summary, Sugar:
At the end of the day, your wedding party is there to support your joy, help you feel calm, and party like it’s 1959. Titles don’t matter nearly as much as the love and loyalty behind them.
Make your own rules. Assign your own roles. And most importantly—choose people who make you laugh when your curls fall flat and your cake melts.
🍒 Need Help Wranglin’ Your Wedding Party?
Let Cherry Pop Events step in with a cocktail shaker in one hand and a timeline in the other! We’ll help you organize your crew, keep the drama to a minimum, and make sure your wedding party shines as bright as you do.
💌 Schedule your Cherry Pop consultation today and let us help you plan a party full of heart, humor, and high style!
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