Alright sugarplum, grab your fountain pen and a martini, because we’re about to chat about one of the most nerve-wracking (and oh-so-romantic) parts of your big day: writing your wedding vows.

After 20+ years in the wedding biz, I’ve seen it all — vows that make the crowd sob into their hankies, vows that send the room into belly laughs, and vows so short they could fit on a cocktail napkin. Writing your own vows is your chance to let your personality, your love story, and your future shine. And don’t worry, doll — Cherry Pop Events has your back with sass, structure, and a sprinkle of retro flair.

💋 Why Wedding Vows Matter

Darlin’, vows are more than just pretty words. They’re the heart of the ceremony, the promises that set the tone for your marriage. They show your partner — and the whole room — why you’re choosing forever. According to Psychology Today, rituals like vow exchanges reinforce commitment and strengthen bonds (2018).

✍️ Outlines to Shape Your Vows

If you’re staring at a blank page thinking, “Where do I even start?” try one of these tried-and-true outlines:

Classic Romance Outline

Share how you met or fell in love.
Say what you admire about your partner.
Make specific promises (to love, cherish, support).
End with a hopeful statement about your future together.

Storytelling Outline

Tell a funny or touching anecdote.
Describe what it taught you about love.
Promise how you’ll carry that lesson into your marriage.
Finish with a line that ties story + commitment together.

Modern Minimalist Outline

Short list of vows starting with “I promise…”
Mix serious with playful.
End with a single heartfelt line: “And most of all, I promise to always choose you.”

Retro Flair Outline

Start with a dramatic declaration: “Honey, you’re my jukebox tune for life.”
Add humor or sass.
Weave in sincerity.
Wrap it in a playful but heartfelt mic-drop.

🎀 Making Your Vows Personal & Relatable

Be Specific: Instead of “I love your laugh,” try “I love the way you snort when you laugh at our inside jokes.”
Balance Humor & Heart: A little levity keeps guests engaged, but sincerity is what makes them misty-eyed.
Think Beyond Today: Talk about your commitment five, ten, fifty years down the line.
Use Your Voice: If you’re playful, keep it cheeky. If you’re sentimental, lean into it.
Keep It Short-ish: Aim for 1–2 minutes. Long enough to be meaningful, short enough to keep Aunt Judy from yawning.

👉 Cherry Pop Tip: At Cherry Pop Events, we help couples rehearse vows so you’re confident, composed, and camera-ready.

🚨 Mistakes Couples Make with Vows

Copying From Google Without Editing
Fix: Use inspiration, but always personalize.
Too Many Inside Jokes
Fix: Balance private humor with moments everyone can appreciate.
Oversharing or Embarrassing Stories
Fix: Save the racy stuff for the honeymoon. Keep vows classy.
Overwriting (Five Pages Long!)
Fix: Time yourself. Trim fluff.
Forgetting to Practice
Fix: Rehearse aloud. Work with your planner for pacing.

💋 Final Word from Cherry Pop Events

Sugar, your vows don’t need to sound like Shakespeare — they need to sound like you. With the right structure, a sprinkle of humor, and a whole lotta heart, you’ll have everyone swooning.

For those of you who need a little reminder, grab our Tips and Tricks for Vows one pager to keep you on track and ready for your big day!

👉 Need help crafting vows, planning rehearsals, or calming those big-day jitters? Cherry Pop Events is your wedding-day bestie. Click Here to book your consultation today.